3 years of sort of wisdom

It's been a long time since I've posted, but since my marriage just hit 3 years I figured I'd post some bits of things that I've learned about life after being married for 3 whole years (it feels like forever and no time at all at once)

-Living with a boy can get frustrating. They are messy, sometimes gross and big. He takes up bed space sometimes, leaves socks EVERYWHERE, and always seems to have dirty dishes in his office. When we were living in apartments this really bothered me, I think because they were small spaces and I had a big need to keep them clean. But now that we are in a house, they still bother me, just not nearly as much as they used to. Now I feel like our house looks lived in, and that we are comfortable around each other in ways that we don't mind cleaning up after the other (I'm not Mr. Clean by any means)

-Date night time is more important than I thought it would be. We are so busy with out grown up lives that I didn't realize how much time we don't spend with each other some weeks. I know I don't have a lot of room to talk because it is just the two of us, but we always seem to get so busy. I love the night when we go to a movie, or play a game, go on a drive, anything really where we set aside time to be together. It really brings the down weeks up and I always forget how much of a life force my husband is. He has the most amazing energy and I love being around him and breathing that in.

-It's really ok to not have it all together. When I was engaged I assumed that being married would automatically make me super responsible, put together and like, a real adult. I was so wrong. I'm learning now that it's ok to screw up, as I do often. It makes it better being married because he always supports me, but all in all I'm learning that it really is ok if I need to act like a kid sometimes. I'm only 22

-IT'S OK THAT I'M NOT PREGNANT- If I had a dime for every person that asked why I don't have kids yet... ugh.  Just because I've been married over a year doesn't mean that I automatically start popping out babies. It just doesn't. I'm only 22. I'm not mature and I'm still quite a bit selfish. I want to raise my kids in a stable home with a stable mother and I am not stable. I want to be done with school, and live my life just a little before I settle down. I have nothing against those that have babies quickly. Babies are wonderful and I am excited to be a mom someday. I just know that for me it's a someday not today.

-Because I love babies but not massive responsibility I am getting a puppy. Pictures will come in August when I get to take him home. I am nothing short of ecstatic.

-The gospel is important for an individual. When I got married I assumed that I would sort of mesh my testimony with my husband and we would be one with God together. It took me longer than I'd like to admit to learn that a testimony is needed for me and me alone. That my relationship with God is just as important if not more so than my relationship with my husband. So to me it's been a hard and wonderful learning experience.

-Marriage is hard and wonderful all at the same time. I love my husband a whole lot and feel really lucky to be with him every day.

3 years isn't a lot. But I feel like I'm at a point where I can ooze wisdom onto all of you because now I clearly know more than you.